Muniba Mazari Motivational Speech - LIFE IS NOT HARD

 

if you think that your life is hard and 

you're giving up on that because you think your life is unfair think again because when you think that way you are being unfair to your own self when you share your story and it doesn't make you cry that means you have healed the real happiness doesn't lie in success money fame it lies within real happiness lies in gratitude i believe in the power of words many people speak before they think but i know the value of words the words can make you break you they can heal your soul they can damage you forever so i always try to use the positive words in my life wherever i go they call it adversity i call it opportunity they call it weakness i call it strength they call me disabled i call myself differently able they see my disability i see my ability there are some incidents that happen in your life and those incidents are so strong they change your dna those incidents or accidents are so strong that they break you physically they deform your body but they transform your soul those incidents break you deform you but they mold you into the best version of here made people realize that sometimes problems are not too big we are too small because we cannot handle them we always expect ease from life we have this amazing fantasy this is how things should work this is my plan it should go as per my plan if that doesn't happen i was always aspiring to do bigger things but had no idea and for that i have to pay the price to be where i am today it's a very heavy price this life is a test and a trial tests our trials are never supposed to be easy so when you're expecting ease from life and life gives you lemons then you make the lemonade and then do not blame life for that because you were expecting ease from a trial trials make you a stronger better person life is a trial every time you realize that i was 18 years old when i got married and this thing i'm sharing for the very first time on an international level i was 18 years old when i got married i belonged to a very conservative family a baloch family where good daughters never say no to their parents my father wanted me to get married and all i said was if that makes you happy young say yes and of course it was never a happy marriage just about after two years of getting married about nine years ago i met a car accident somehow my husband fell asleep the car fell in the ditch he managed to jump out saved himself i'm happy for him but i stayed inside the car and i sustained a lot of injuries the list is a bit long don't get scared i'm perfectly fine now radius ulna of my right arm were fractured the wrist was rigid shoulder bone and collarbone were friendship my whole rib cage got fresher and because of the rib cage injury lungs and liver were badly injured i couldn't breathe i lost urine and bowel control that's why i have to wear the bag wherever i go but that injury that changed me and my life completely as a person and my perception towards living my life was the spine injury three vertebrae of my backbone were completely crushed and i got paralyzed for the rest of my life one day doctor came to me and he said well i heard that you wanted to be an artist but you ended up being a housewife i have bad news for you you won't be able to paint again because your wrist and your arm are so deformed you won't be able to hold the pen again and i stayed quiet next day doctor came to me and said your spine injury is so bad you won't be able to walk again i took a deep breath i said it's all right the work today doctor came to me and said because of your spine injury and the fixation that you have in your back you won't be able to give birth to a child that day i was devastated i still remember i asked my mother why me and that is where i started to question my existence why am i even alive what's the point of living i cannot walk i cannot paint fine be a mother and we have this thing in our heads being women that we are incomplete without having children i am going to be an incomplete woman for the rest of my life what's the point people are scared they think i will get divorced what is going to happen to me why me why am i alive we all try to chase this tunnel we all do this because we see light in the end of the tunnel which keeps us going my dear friends in my situation there was a tunnel that i had to roll on there was no light and that is where i realized that the words have the power to heal the soul my mother said to me this too shall pass god has a greater plan for you i don't know what it is but he surely has i was discharged and i went back and i went back home and i realized that i have developed a lot of pressure ulcers on my back and on my bone i was unable to sit there were a lot of infections in my body a lot of allergies

the doctors wanted me to lie down on the bed straight for not six months not one year two years i was bedridden confined in that one room looking outside the window listening to the birds chirping and thinking maybe there will be a time when we'll be going out with the family and enjoying the nature that was the time where i realized how lucky people are but they don't realize there are always turning points in your life there was a rebirth day and i celebrated after two years and two and a half months when i was able to sit on a wheelchair that was the day i was a completely different person i still remember the day i sat on the wheelchair for the first time knowing that i'm never going to leave this knowing that i won't be able to walk for the rest of my life i saw myself in the mirror and i talked to myself and i still remember what i said i cannot wait for a miracle to come and make me walk i cannot sit in the corner of the room crying cripping and begging for mercy because nobody has time so i have to accept myself the way i am the sooner the better and that day i decided that i'm going to live life for myself i am not going to be that perfect person for someone i am just going to take this moment i will make it perfect for myself and you know how it all began that day i decided that i'm going to fight my fears we all have fears fear of unknown fear of known fear of losing people fear of losing help money we want to excel in career we want to become famous we want to get money we are scared all the time so i wrote down one by one all those fears and i decided that i'm going to overcome these fears one at a time you know when you end up being on the wheelchair what's the most painful thing that's another fear that people on the wheelchair or the people who are differently able have in their hearts but they never share i'll share that with you the lack of acceptance people think that they will not be accepted by other people because we in the world of perfect people are imperfect you all are thriving in your careers you have bigger dreams and aspirations in life always remember one thing on the road to success there is always we not me do not think that you alone can achieve things no there's always another person who's standing behind you maybe not coming on the forefront and behind you praying for you and supporting you never lose that person never when you think your glass is half empty come on your glass is half full it's all in here and here you